The World is a Classroom
What parent doesn’t want to have his or her child succeed in school? Parents project ahead and want their child to be eligible for professional careers. At the same time, they also want their child to be fulfilled and happy.
There are some questions that parents can ask themselves. The world is a school room and both parents and children are learning, individually and collectively.
- Are We Creating a Family that promotes happy interaction?
Children pick up if parents are disagreeing with anger or giving each other the silent treatment. Children may not be asleep when parents raise their voices in anger.
Does an older sibling bully one of his/her siblings.? Parents may laugh it off, and render it to ‘sibling rivalry,’ but they need to talk to the child that may be suffering silently. All family members need to feel that he/she has a voice. There are NO stupid questions and NO stupid answers.
- Creating a Learning Environment
The majority of families have concerns around television, video games and the internet. There should be absolutely no hand-held games, iphones, ipads etc at the dinner table. There should, if possible , be a dinner table. Too often, families eat at the television set.
Conversation does not have to a constant – “And how was your day?” Parents can ask questions. “What is your opinion about…..” “Should a dropped wallet be returned?”
Time for the television to be off and everyone reads for 15 minutes?
Parents need to be seen reading as well.
Introducing New Interests
To introduce your child to say, ski-ing is an expensive endeavour. Start simply by taking a young child to watch a soccer game. It is a good idea to make sure your child can swim. Swimming lessons are not only a necessity, but it can be a place for your child to socialize and make friends. Play ball with your kids . Vary the ball – soccer, baseball, fun golf games – hit a ball on a string. Walk with your kids and point out nature. Have them collect leaves and take photographs of flowers. Use the internet or a book to identify them. Fun family games, during camping or on rainy days help families to bond together.
Build on Successes
I was not a good math student but I excelled in literature. Parents should continue to focus on the positive. Use creative methods to help your child in subjects that are difficult. Supervise internet games in the area of math and science. Ask about subjects and topics being taught. Do some research if you can – not to give totally away – but as a way to ask questions and provide a little information.
Some kids and parents are NOT ‘morning people.’ Make sure that your child has his/her clothes ready for the morning. The same goes for packing books and having assignments packed on the day that they are due. Have a large calendar with assignments due written on it. Have a rule – No Assignments are to be done the night before they are due. Shoot to have the assignment done two days before and review it on the night
Tell you child how great and special that he or she is in your life. Tell them that getting an A in honesty, kindness and laughter is important as well. Pauline.